Tuesday, August 19, 2008

The miracle of family!!!

Today the most amazing thing happened!!! My husband and I were talking thru text about how my son Chase was starting back in on his major attitude and back talking now that school has started and how we needed to find a way to come up with the extra money to take him back to counseling. Chase is an amazingly bright and sweet little boy, but has a temper that you would not EVEN believe!! He did really well over the summer, but now that school has started again, it seems to be flaring back up. Anyway, we were discussing the situation when I suddenly got an email at work from my mom that went to both of my brothers and their wives. The email contained a prayer request for my son. Of course, I immediately started crying right at my desk because it just shocked me so much but it touched me too. In it she asked that they pray for our financial situation and for Chase to be able to get the help he needs to help him control his temper and maintain some respect. I'm not a super religious person, but I do believe in God and the things that he can do, but WOW!!!! I haven't even talked to my mom about Chase's recent flare-ups AT ALL and here she is saying that God had laid it on her heart to send out the request to my family for prayer and for possibly some help financially so we can take him to his counseling sessions. He's only gone to one session, but I think with continued help, his counselor could make a world of difference for him. Just through that initial session, she brought a condition to my attention called Oppositional Defiance Disorder. This disorder has 8 primary symptoms or signs and my son fits 6 of them to a TEE!!! As I said before, he's a super sweet kid ... he's funny, bright, caring, sensitive and very compassionate. The problem though is that he doesn't know when to keep his mouth shut. He doesn't know when to drop the subject and instead, he continues until he gets more and more trouble. Once that happens, there's almost no stopping him. Once he gets past a certain point, he cannot and will not stop. It's gotten so bad that I was going to call the cops because he hit me on the arm and tried to bite my hand because I was holding both of his arms. Once the word police was out of my mouth, he immediately snapped out of it and started crying saying that he was sorry and that he didn't want to go to jail. This is a 12 year old little boy here, so my heart was absolutely broken and I was a total mess. He's had a temper problem all his life, but not to this extent.
My mom just now sent me another email while I was writing this that said, "Tonya, you are to set up an appt. for him and pray and stand on faith that the money will be there some how. God can do anything, and money is not beyond His reach." So, I'm going to call and try to set up and appointment for him and just hope that the money will indeed be there. Wish me luck and keep me in your prayers!!!


Bre said...

I had no idea, Tonya. That just breaks my heart. I hope Chase is able to get the help he deserves and can start to cope with this challenge in life. I wish i had the funds to help you guys out. I'm not very religious either, but it always seems God or a higher power find a way to work around the money issue. Sending you guys a lot of love and I'll keep Chaser in my thoughts!

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aunt dar said...

Tonya, so far I am able to read your blog. I don't know how long it will last or even if you get this. Please let me know.
by the way, God isn't looking for "religious people" he's looking for "lost" people that need Him. Not "religion but relationship".
Love you much niece,
Aunt Dar

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* TONYA * said...

OMG your name is Tonya too, what are the odds LOL. Oh and I see Bre is a friend of yours? She's part of my multiples group. Thank you so much for stopping by my blog while I was on vacation.

I hope that you get everything sorted out with Chase. Having a 12 year old myself who has a rotten temper and is going through the normal pre-teenage things (which school seems to exacerbate) my heart goes out to you.